After you have the vision, the insight, the flash of purpose and decide to move forward, what do you do?
You set goals, yes?
And then benchmarks. And you start taking action.
I need you to understand that setting goals the way you have been is severely limiting your outcomes, and success.
Here’s why.
You’re likely using some form of SMART goals, yes?
It’s all well and good to be specific and to want to measure something. But far too often, we use that measurement to limit what we can actually achieve and experience.
Instead? Set new standards.
What’s the difference?
Non-negotiable status.
You have standards in every area of your life, whether you recognize it or not. Your standards are your non negotiables, the limit of what you will accept in your life.
Take a good look at every area of your life, and what your experiences are, and you will be able to define your standards.
At one point or another, you accepted less. And then you finally said ENOUGH and demanded more … of yourself, of other people, of life.
And everything rose to meet you.
When you raise your standards, and have the fortitude to refuse accepting anything that doesn’t align, eventually you will not receive anything that doesn’t align, and within that space, you get to choose what you’ll experience.
The buffet of life choices drastically expands when you take the time, and use the energy properly, to solidify your new standards.
Goals aren’t non-negotiable. We have an inherent understanding that we will fall within a certain range of achievement and that has become acceptable.
That mentality won’t get you the kind of life you want to live.
The launchpad for your success is BE, then DO, then HAVE.
BEing involves raising standards and only accepting what alsigns.
This does absolutely require that you are okay with seeming failure, with what looks like nothing is changing, and the fear of not getting what you want. You have to learn how to sit with all of that, and not be moved internally.
Once you begin practicing that on a regular basis, it will eventually BEcome who you are.
Goals are far too limiting. Raise and hold to new standards instead.
With love,
Melissa
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