This is perhaps the most important piece of writing I’ve shared to date.
Whether you will readily admit it or not, you do crave the drama. You crave it because you thoroughly enjoying the ascent from the low to the highs you are so good at reaching. The highs aren’t high enough, without having first come back from the lows, are they?
To get that deep hit, you’re find yourself dancing with self-sabotage, in the form of relationship turmoil, business connections going south, or perhaps allowing your physical and mental wellness to be ignored.
And it seems crazy to you, because you’re a powerhouse. You’re successful. You’re influential. You’re making an impact.
So you ignore addressing the creation of drama because you think it shouldn’t be present. You shouldn’t need it, shouldn’t be creating it, shouldn’t … dare I say … love it.
So the pattern continues, and my beautiful fierce leader, it doesn’t need to.
You do not need the drama and the lows in order to appreciate the highs.
In fact, I have a better addiction to offer to you:
Following your intuition.
The way women leaders like you crave and create the drama in the first place is from not following intuition. It’s fascinating to me (and yes, I’ve lived it, too), because following our intuitive nudges actually provides the most thrilling ride.
Let me share with you how to undo the pattern of creating drama and create a much more powerful pattern of listening to and following your intuition.
- Whatever drama you’ve currently created, decide that it is neutral. That’s right. Let go of judging it. It’s neither bad (to give you the low), nor good (to help you get to the high). Things only have the meaning we ascribe to them, so decide it has zero meaning.
- Tap into your intuition. Given that you most likely spend a good time ignoring it, you’ll need to get reacquainted. Regular meditation or mindfulness practices help greatly with this, as does simply trusting that you do know what your gut is telling you. I have a complimentary guide to help you with this, as well. Click here to get it.
- Become mindful of your triggers. Get really intimate with what drives you to crave the drama. When are you most likely to begin creating it? How small does it start? What happens just before? What thoughts go through your mind? What emotions do you feel? Be brutally honest with yourself about all of this. No judgment, just acceptance of what IS in the moment.
- Follow your intuition, rather than the trigger. This is the most important and hardest step to take. But just at first. Once you do it the first time, and then again, and again, it becomes who you are. The easiest way to traverse this is to DECIDE you are already the woman who follows her gut. Period.
You and those you serve not only deserve but require you following your intuition. The unfolding of life is so much more rewarding and meaningful when you do.
With love,
Melissa
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