Often times, driven, alpha women are loners.
As such a woman, you focus on raising your standards, building your empire, and not allowing distractions to sideswipe you.
So finding a support network at all, let alone one that can offer the kind of support you really need, can seem tricky.
We hear that we should surround ourselves with like-minded people, but I disagree.
Like-minded people are thinking and executing at the same caliber you are right now, and I know you — you abhor staying stagnant.
Have like minded people in your network, yes, but surround yourself as much as possible with people who are already living and experiencing what your next level, your new standard is.
Truly, it should be a 1:4 mix.
So where do you find such next-level-minded folks, and how do you interact with them effectively?
First, you already know where they are. You’ve seen them on LinkedIn, or in Facebook groups, or perhaps you’ve hired them to assist you in various areas of life. Be in their energy, surround yourself with their content, their words, their thoughts pushed out into the world. Begin to adopt that essence as your own, as it applies to your desires.
I’ve seen the advice that if you want to connect with someone you perceive is “above” you, to contact them and offer them something they may potentially want or need that you can provide. That feels awfully inauthentic to me, as the connection is predicated on you doing something only to get something from them.
And we know you are extremely authentic and of high integrity. So I’m sure that can feel out of whack.
Additionally, you don’t chase, you attract. You do not force anything; instead you are fierce.
(Because we know that whatever we force ends up being garbage anyway.)
So begin scripting each morning that you are their contemporary, that you offer them so much value, that they love being connected with you.
Do this enough, and get yourself hyped in the self-concept that aligns with that, and naturally ideas will flow to you as to how can be of true value to those people.
Take action on those ideas as if you really are already of value (because you are, and it is already within you).
In time (and not too much of it), you will be connected with them in such a way that you will receive the full support you need, at the caliber you need.
And also remember: be ruthless about disconnecting from anyone who isn’t in one of those two categories.
Listen. We both know you are here to do amazing things. That there are so many powerful things that are meant to flow forth from you.
Your allegiance needs to be to yourself, your gifts, and to those who need the highest version of you playing full out.
With love,
Melissa
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