Yes, I said it.
We’ve all heard about growth mindset, and the importance of cultivating that over a fixed mindset. Quick refresher: people with a growth mindset believe that intelligence and talents can and do grow over time, while those who operate from a fixed mindset feel that intelligence and talent just are what they are, and cannot be developed further.
We can easily see how a growth mindset leads to not only more success, but a much more fulfilling life.
However.
Chances are, your belief in a growth mindset, and feeling that you have one, is actually holding you back.
Because here’s the thing.
When you consider a growth versus fixed perspective of the world, you are most likely only considering one or two major areas of your life. You are probably ignoring the areas in your life through which you usually use a fixed mindset lens, and my darling friend, those are the areas you need to address.
So, take a little journey with me.
I want you to write down the major areas of your life.
For example:
Relationships
Career / business
Health/wellness/fitness
Personal Growth
Finances
Family
Leisure
Spend a moment looking at each area, and then jot down the growth you feel you’ve made over the last three years in each.
I’m gonna need you to be brutally honest with yourself here. No one else is going to see this. And you need to give up the truth. Okay? Good.
What are you thinking, believing, doing differently now in each area? What are you doing exactly the same? Is that area working for you? Are you fulfilled? Do you want changes?
Now.
If you think you have an overall growth mindset, but you haven’t made growth / changes in areas that you feel your body tense up as you think about or look at …
you’re using a fixed mindset for those.
I know. Frustrating. Annoying. You’re growth-oriented, dammit!
Please know you aren’t alone.
Most successful professionals experience this.
It is important you address it, though.
Those areas that create consistent frustration for you? The ones that patterns keep occurring that you know you need to break? That’s my expertise.
I help successful, ambitious professionals and leaders break those patterns for good so that they can live the life they are meant to be living, and serve those they are meant to serve better than ever.
To begin, I suggest the following:
1 Identify the areas that cause tension in your body
2 Hold the thought in your mind that causes the tension and let the tension be there without trying to assuage it
3 Feel into the tension, breathe through the tension, and repeat until it dissipates (withOUT changing the thought)
It is the emotional attachment — the charge — to thoughts and thought patterns, and the subsequent behaviors, that keep you stuck. By engaging in that exercise, you are on the road to releasing what is no longer serving you.
Now, send me a message (via WhatsApp or FB Messenger, both links accessible here) and let’s get on a quick call to see how working together would help you shift the patterns for good.
With love,
Melissa