In our highly debate-ridden, take a stance, right and wrong laden world, the concept of neutrality can become not only lost on us, but condemned.
I want you to know that the key to your further success, to embodying the version of you who is kicking ass at the next level, lies in neutrality.
Let’s investigate why, and how you can tap into this.
Everything is here for your good, to help you as you create the life you want. And while it’s essential to view life this way, it can feel overwhelmingly tricky to do so at times.
Part of the reason this is so is that we experience emotions powerfully. It’s part of the beauty of being human. Whatever is highly emotionally charged we keep attached to us.
The more powerful the emotional experience you have, as a result of what you choose to continue thinking about something, the more likely you will keep it attached to you, and continue to experience it.
Now when it is a pleasant emotional experience, fabulous! We all want those to continue.
But when something is highly negatively charged? We want to change that, quickly.
I want you to remember that nothing in and of itself has any meaning. That we give meaning to each and every thing we encounter.
If the meaning we are assigning to something doesn’t create an expansive, pleasant, or empowering sensation within us, the meaning is not right for us and our path.
Yes, it is that simple.
But we can’t go from something that is highly negatively charged to feeling all sunshine and roses about it in the snap of our fingers. It’s a big swing.
So first, we must let it be neutral.
Theory is all well and good, but what happens when the rubber meets the road, and you come face to face with the energy of old worn out beliefs and thought patterns as it makes its way through you?
Here are some steps you can take to reframe and neutralize the emotional experience, and begin adopting a new meaning that serves you so much better.
>>> First, pause.
There is so much power in the pause.
Take three deep breaths, hold your hand to your heart, and say: ”I choose to see this differently.”
>>> Second, be curious about what you are thinking about the event or circumstance, what the dominant story is that you are telling yourself around it, what meaning you have given to it.
Repeat “I choose to see this differently” and “I am willing to let this be neutral.”
This step is where the magic lies.
In endeavoring to view something this way, you are taking the power from the external event and placing it where it rightfully belongs — with you.
Note: If you have given something a “negative” meaning and it fully resonates with you that that is what is right for you, by all means keep it.
But be open to seeing things differently — you will be surprised how expansive this process is.
>>> Lastly, then decide what a more empowering meaning to the event would be. Actively look for evidence, either in your life or in the lives of friends and colleagues, that the new meaning is at least plausible, and possible.
What you seek you will find, so be determined about this step.
I highly encourage you to practice this with events and circumstances you deem positive as well. The more you can train yourself to see that not only is everything devoid of inherent meaning, but that your power lies in the meaning you assign, the stronger you will catapult yourself into the successes that you feel are still future tense for you. You will be able to assign success to things you formerly viewed as roadblocks.
Then?
You’re unstoppable.
With love,
Melissa
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