Tag: toxic
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Why Your Values Ran for Cover (and how to start living by them again)
“Your beliefs become your thoughts, your thoughts become your words, your words become your actions, your actions become your habits, your habits become your values, your values become your destiny.” – Mahatma Gandhi I have always prided myself on being independent, and living with integrity and honesty. Or so I thought. After my first divorce,…
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How to Survive When Self-Sabotage Strikes
“Sometimes we self-sabotage just when things seem to be going smoothly. Perhaps this is a way to express our fear about whether it is okay for us to have a better life. We are bound to feel anxious as we leave behind old notions of our unworthiness. The challenge is not to be fearless, but…
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How I Stopped Bristling Like a Cornered Animal
“Every woman that finally figured out her worth, has picked up her suitcases of pride and boarded a flight to freedom, which landed in the valley of change.” – Shannon Adler My ex and I have been divorced for almost two years now. Given what our first go-round at the divorce process was like, this…
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Why Slowing Down Crushes the Toxic Relationship Pattern
“Nature does not hurry, yet everything is accomplished” Lao Tzu. For most of my life, I’ve been in a rush. I grew up that way, except for Sundays. On Sunday mornings, my Mom and I would relax in our pajamas for most of the morning while my Dad went to the gym, and we he…
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The Insider’s Guide to Getting Out of Toxic Relationships
It didn’t seem toxic at first. In fact, it started out as most of us have heard toxic relationships do — as a knight in shining armor saving the damsel in distress. Except I wouldn’t admit to myself that I was a damsel in distress, even though I was. When I met him, I had…