The ex and I had a discussion about whether or not to allow Diva to attend an event.
My gut said no. And I shared that I was inclined to say no.
Also, Diva will only be with me for two out of the seven days this event is taking place and we have plans both days. I can’t bring her anyway.
She will be with him for the other five days.
If it’s his time with her obviously it’s his decision to allow her to attend or not.
He offered to bring her and stay with her.
I said I appreciated that and thought that was great.
She came back to me today and said:
“How come you said no to me going (to that event)? Daddy even showed me the texts.”
😑 TRIGGERED.
WHAT THE TRIGGER MADE IT MEAN:
> He’s trying to make me seem unreasonable.
> He could probably make it work on his time — and offered to — but he’s conveniently making it seem to Diva like I’m the big bad one here saying no even though I already have plans.
> He puts her in the middle and it’s not okay.
🔥 WHAT I CHOSE TO MAKE IT MEAN 🔥
💥 No one bullies me into not following my gut.
💥 When he does this it’s an opportunity for me to explain to Diva about the importance of intuition.
💥 Any time he does this Diva will remember and reinforce in her mind and heart and spirit that listening to your intuition is essential and she will trust me and herself even more.
💥 He’s a really good Dad and he most likely was trying to make her aware of the decision process we have as co-parents.
💥 I’m going to be much more mindful of not throwing anyone under the bus.
^^^ That last one is key. It’s entirely possible that I’m projecting something I’m doing and magnetizing it to me. As within, so without.
This is all a choice. A simple decision.
I choose my power.
It’s time for you to choose your power, too.
With love,
Melissa
xoxoxo