As a tenacious, ambitious, brilliant woman who goes for what she wants, it can feel frustrating and stifling when you feel as though you are not being taken seriously.
The initial reaction is, understandably, to lash out at whomever is not taking you seriously, and perhaps to begin defending yourself.
I know this inclination to react all too well.
A few years ago I was dating a man and we were out to dinner. At the time, I was working full time as a behavior specialist while also — full-time — building my coaching practice.
He turned to me and said, referring to my coaching practice: “So. How’s your side business going?”
I’m quite certain my eyes turned red and smoke began billowing from my ears. My first thought was to remind him of all the ways I was busting my ass for the vision I had for my coaching practice, and how many successes were happening.
But I paused.
Because I realized that he was only a mirror. He was reflecting back to me where I wasn’t taking MYSELF seriously.
That’s all that’s happening in those moments. Those people who seem to not be taking you seriously are just messengers, letting you know that in soe shape or for m YOU aren’t taking yourself seriously.
So here’s out to handle that, and move forward powerfully.
1 Be curious about the thoughts that are triggered when you feel as though someone isn’t taking you seriously. What is the self talk that happens? Then, be aware of the emotions that arise.
Remember — as soon as you shine the light of awareness on something, it has shifted. So I just want you to be gently aware of the dominant story playing in your mind.
2 Take a good, hard, raw look at your life and be brutally honest with yourself about where you aren’t taking yourself seriously. This is usually identified by admitting where you aren’t playing full out.
3 Again, get curious. WHY aren’t you playing full out? What fears are jumping up and down around you? What are you making them mean?
4 Pause. If you were 100% sure of yourself and your expertise and purpose, and you were certain that no matter what you could not fail, what would you do? Where would you go ahead and play full out?
Go. Do. That. Now.
With love,
Melissa
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