Category: Evolve
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How My Limited Life-view Allowed the Toxic Vampire to Strike
“You must learn day by day, year by year to broaden your horizon. The more things you love, the more you are interested in, the more you enjoy, the more you are indignant about, the more you have left when anything happens.” – Ethel Barrymore I used to view my life through a very narrowly…
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How I Stopped Bristling Like a Cornered Animal
“Every woman that finally figured out her worth, has picked up her suitcases of pride and boarded a flight to freedom, which landed in the valley of change.” – Shannon Adler My ex and I have been divorced for almost two years now. Given what our first go-round at the divorce process was like, this…
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How to Forgive the Toxic Ex
“Grudges are for those who insist that they are owed something; forgiveness, however, is for those who are substantial enough to move on.” – Criss Jami While it absolutely takes two to make or break a relationship, toxic partners behave in horrific and seemingly unforgivable ways. There is so much talk about the importance of…
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Why Slowing Down Crushes the Toxic Relationship Pattern
“Nature does not hurry, yet everything is accomplished” Lao Tzu. For most of my life, I’ve been in a rush. I grew up that way, except for Sundays. On Sunday mornings, my Mom and I would relax in our pajamas for most of the morning while my Dad went to the gym, and we he…
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Why You Shouldn’t Fall for the Knight in Shining Armor (aka The Toxic Relationship Scam)
“My knight in shining armor turned out to be an asshole in tinfoil.” Anonymous I fell for a knight in shining armor after my first divorce. Very, very soon after my first divorce, in fact. I knew I was terrified to face the world alone, but I never thought I would be the type of…