Category: Engage
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How Loving Your Imperfections Will Keep You Toxic-Free
It started off innocently enough… The days of my perfectionistic tendencies were amazing. Truly. I felt like I could conquer all of my doubts and insecurities. I would put all of my energy into doing something insanely well, you know – perfectly, and whatever I put my mind to, I would accomplish. I didn’t understand…
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The Magical Way to Resolve Problems with a Toxic Ex
Yes, there’s really a magical way to resolve problems with a toxic ex. I used to wrestle every problem to the ground. Immediately. I couldn’t rest until something was resolved in my mind, and I couldn’t ever just let stuff go. I would feel the pull of what would make me feel better in the…
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The Power of Expectation to Ward Off Toxicity in Relationships
“Treat a man as he is and he will remain as he is. Treat a man as he can and should be and he will become as he can and should be.” – Stephen R. Covey I somehow got it in my head that I shouldn’t have expectations of other people. Well that’s about as…
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How to Use Your Intuition to Stay Free From Toxic People
“There is no force equal to a woman determined to rise.” W.E.B. Dubois In psychology, self consistency theory tells us that we act consistently with our self-concept, our self-image. What we believe we are completely affects how we behave, and in turn, how our life plays out. When you’ve resisted following your intuition for a…
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How to Survive When Self-Sabotage Strikes
“Sometimes we self-sabotage just when things seem to be going smoothly. Perhaps this is a way to express our fear about whether it is okay for us to have a better life. We are bound to feel anxious as we leave behind old notions of our unworthiness. The challenge is not to be fearless, but…